Assalaamu alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu,
It's sad for me to watch my friend rely on her husband or family to make decisions for her, and if she's given a choice she's unable to make a choice.
She's one who's decisions have always been made for her by her family and she had to obey whether she liked it or not. Soon she had given up makin choices because there was on point in doing so anyway.
Please ladies teach your children to make their own decisions from a small age. Reward them for makin the right decisions. Guide them and tell them about the consequences if they've made wrong ones but please let them make the decisions under your guidance.
Listen to them when they speak and keep an open mind. Especially when they're in their late teens remember they think of themselves as adults and want to be treated the same way.
Also remember that they actuallly may be correct in their way of thinkin. If they're not then gently remind them me what's they're doing wrong through quoting hadith or Quraan.
It's also very important to build ur child's confidence. Inshallah the above will also help the children grow in confidence.
Let me know what u think.