tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3194381013894168686.post5126127941693941658..comments2023-04-10T15:49:21.345+02:00Comments on Seeking the highest guidance: The ability to chooseMoonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00434495702634570589noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3194381013894168686.post-88674177587515162312008-06-30T23:49:00.000+02:002008-06-30T23:49:00.000+02:00salaam Jana and welcome:) Sometimes people have kn...salaam Jana and welcome:) <BR/><BR/>Sometimes people have knowledge but it's hard to in against people such as your family or husband specially when they are oppressive and don't really care what u think about things coz they have an in- built system where they belive they are right and their children are wrong. It doesn't matter how old their children are, they may be 30 but they'll still consider them wrong. <BR/><BR/>Belive u me i'm going thru it. Tryin 2fight back, but the only option for me seems to be on my own. But it doesn't help esp. After u've had a divorce and the only ppl who looked out for u at the difficult time are ur parents. U feel obliged towards them, the best u can do is talk to them and make them understand ur point of view. U have to make lots of duaa and constant striving to make ppl understand u.Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00434495702634570589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3194381013894168686.post-4686024733397647292008-06-30T20:33:00.000+02:002008-06-30T20:33:00.000+02:00it's sad to see people blindly following their fam...it's sad to see people blindly following their families without any research on their part. I've seen more people follow the advice of their friends personally than their familes but I know it's out there, esp with a lot of new Muslims. InshAllah these people will realise the importance of educating themselves properly instead of following the advice of someone who is not knowledgeable enough to be giving adviceJana's Journeyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09438853832241487771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3194381013894168686.post-1510897815220830842008-06-29T13:45:00.000+02:002008-06-29T13:45:00.000+02:00May Allah help us to make the correct decisions.May Allah help us to make the correct decisions.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3194381013894168686.post-3047098339487845642008-06-28T23:23:00.000+02:002008-06-28T23:23:00.000+02:00Ameen Summameen! My friend and also the other ladi...Ameen Summameen! My friend and also the other ladies out there who're suffering in similar situations. <BR/><BR/>Yes you'r quite right communication is very essential and there's a possibility that children are affected.Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00434495702634570589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3194381013894168686.post-40110697558387394792008-06-28T19:38:00.000+02:002008-06-28T19:38:00.000+02:00Salaam...i so agree with u...how will kids learn i...Salaam...i so agree with u...how will kids learn if they dont make mistakes? I mean, im not saying just let them go n do whtever they want....but have GOOD communication wid them...communication is the key word. All of us have diff opinions and have diff personalities and plus trust me i know how it affects coz ive gone thru this personally..it shatters ur self esteem n ur confidence in urself. Alhamdulilah im past that stage...but women who are still into this shud understand that theyre showing others that she's nuthin but a slave and wat will her kids learn by seeing this? if she has a boy doncha think he will grow up to think that its a man's right to rule over women? if she has girl, doncha think she might grow up being a feminist n a rebellion? which isnt their fault actually. <BR/>Allah has given women RIGHTS and we need to make use of them.<BR/>May Allah grant ur friend strength. Ameen.HFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14474076203777262647noreply@blogger.com