Monday, March 9, 2009

feeling positive even in a bad situation

Assalaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu,

Today the day started on a fairly positive note, alhamdolillah, but during the day there has been this one incident at work, that made me feel really angry and depressed, well more angry than depressed. I have this co-worker that i've been doing favours for and when i asked for a favour a couple of days ago he was sayin 'Ya sure, inshallah" ... and today i asked him have you done it i needed it today? he replies "what did u ask me to do?" URGGHHHH!!!!

I feel so Angry, coz he used me... and shaytaan is using my anger to get the better of me, but Alhamdolillah Allah guided me just in time and i ended up finding this article on feeling poitive, and seeing the whole situation from a whole new point of view.

When people hurt us, a natural sense of isolation begins to occur. Sometimes there are people that continue to make you miserable and they criticize you, humiliate you, abuse you, and generally make you feel bad. Ultimately, you begin to ignore them and look for an escape, but the feelings stay with you. Common advice is to be positive, but how can you forgive and forget when you begin to feel negatively about yourself and people around you? Where we focus is the problem. When trying to get over a hurtful situation, we tend to focus on that issue and think of nothing else. What one needs to do is widen their focus and remember that there are many other things in life. There are family members, friends, children, etc.

Just remember, you are not the one that should be pitied. The person who hurt you is. They have lost friendship with you by their own action, which makes them one-step closer to loneliness. As you begin to realize what your antagonist lost by hurting you, you will begin to feel badly for them. Quite the turn around. Positive thinking includes believing in you. When someone hurts you, you must allow yourself to believe they just do not know what they are doing.Your negativity fades and you start feeling positive. Your misery will disappear, and you begin to feel good about yourself again. Positive belief and positive suggestion in yourself will allow you to heal your hurts that much quicker. Besides, who wants such a negative person in their life anyway?

Taken from here

Here's another way to be positive about the future


Things You’ll Need:
Quiet space

Step1 Begin by finding a quiet place where you can think and really listen to your inner thoughts. I thinks it's best to sit outside or in your favorite room of the house.

Step2 Now grab your paper and pen and write out the following:
Where do I want to be in five years?
What places do I wish to see this year?
What Surah makes me feel good and happy?
What foods do I enjoy that make me feel my best?
What is the single most important thing in my life right now?
What do I love about myself and why?
Do I have enough time for me in the day?
Do I accomplish the things I long to complete everyday?
Is there something that I want to change about my life?
Have I given up on any goals of mine that meant a lot to me?

Step3 Now you must answer these questions as honestly as you can and then take your answers to heart. You must know who you truly are before you can think positively of yourself. If you have something that you wish to change, then commit yourself to changing. If you want to see some places this year, you must try and go. These questions are designed to help you understand what makes you the happiest and what doesn't. You should splendor in the happy and change the unhappy. It's now up to you, and the more you know of you, the happier and more positive your life will be!

Hope these articles help you too.
How do you keep yourselves positive?


BARAN said...

waalaikumussalam sis..thanks a lot for adding me..ur blog is very motivational.something dat I've always been needing.for me,I make myself positive,by remembering dat everything dat happens r test for me.whenever somebody make me hurt,sad n or angry,I take it as a test.there was once,my only close fren didnt wanna talk to me,due to some foolish misunderstanding.she is quite hot-tempered.but stil,I tried many times trying to talk to her.(eventhough it was totally not my fault).I know shaytan was whispering to b proud n egoist.eventhough she didnt reply me,(totally ignored me in rude way!!),I almost gave all my patience..then after 5 days,suddenly she came back to me n talk like usual.Alhamdulillah...this life is not last forever...I just keep dat in everything dat happens is just small matter for me to manage.InsyaAllah..may Allah give us all the guides for this life.Ameen.

Random Muslima said...

Assalaamu alaykum
I love stuff like this LOL *wink*
And I loooooooooove people who fight to be positive!
My blog is all about me finding the positive way and wallah writing it down has helped me IRL too mashaALlah.

Beautiful mashaALlah!

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